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🫂Counselling Skills (Aotearoa NZ)

Learn to listen well and help people feel heard, the Aotearoa way

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Unit 1

1

Start here

Course overview

2

What counselling is, and what it is not

Counselling defined

3

Helping skills are not a licence to practise

Scope and limits

4

The NZ profession, and the move toward regulation

Who counsellors answer to

5

Te Tiriti o Waitangi and cultural responsibility

The treaty obligation in helping

Unit 2

Te Whare Tapa Whā

A whare with four walls

Whakawhanaungatanga and manaakitanga

Relationship and care come first

Whānau and kaupapa Māori approaches

The person is not alone

The Fonofale model for Pasifika wellbeing

A fale, not a whare

The ethical frame, in plain words

Why ethics come first

Unit 3

Confidentiality and its limits under NZ law

Privacy with limits

Boundaries

Holding the edges

When to refer, and free NZ supports

Knowing your limits

Carl Rogers and the core conditions

The three conditions

Empathy up close

Feeling with, not for

Unit 4

Unconditional positive regard

Acceptance without conditions

Congruence

Being genuine

Attending, the skill before words

Showing up with your body

Open questions and minimal encouragers

Opening the door

Paraphrasing

Reflecting back the content

Unit 5

Reflecting feeling

Naming the emotion

Summarising and silence

Two quieter skills

Empathy versus sympathy versus advice

Three different responses

The major approaches at a glance

Five schools of therapy

A closer look at motivational interviewing

OARS and rolling with resistance

Unit 6

The stages of a helping conversation

Egan's three stages

Working with strong emotions and crisis basics

Staying steady, knowing the line

Cultural humility

Not assuming you know

Self-care and supervision

You cannot pour from empty

Common beginner mistakes

What to stop doing

Unit 7

Where to go next

Where to go next

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